Alcohol Addiction… It’s Just Not Funny Any More
One of the hardest things for me to see is somebody with a drinking problem, in denial about it.
So many people are using jokes and humor to laugh off a drug problem.
I understand this, I used to see myself as a ‘man who could handle his drink’ as though it was a badge of honor.
Look on Facebook and you will see people clearly addicted to alcohol acting the fool and making jokes about it.
But’s not funny, it’s desperately sad to witness.
Some people joke about it, others get angry! This is because it’s a drug that we hate to call a drug.
Go into any local bar and ask the customer how their drug use is going, and you will get a mixture of abuse and ridicule in response.
The truth is, this social pleasantry is a drug and a dangerous one at that.
Alcohol kills millions of people every year, and yet we are repeated made to feel that if you refuse to join in with the consumption of attractively packaged poison, it’s you who has a problem. In the western world, we live in a bubble of unreality around with drug.
When you write down the nonsense, we believe about this drug; it looks quite insane.
- We toast our ‘good health’ with a liquid proven to cause seven significant forms of cancer.
- We drink when we feel down, even though alcohol is a depressant.
- Alcohol is used to help us with insomnia, even though we know it disturbs sleep.
- Drinkers are suspicious of the people who choose not to drink the poison, not the other way around.
A bizarre situation
We have got ourselves into a bizarre situation where we are looking at black and insisting it is white. It’s is the unpicking of this universal distortion that explains why ‘Quit Drinking Bootcamp’ has been so useful for so many problem drinkers around the world.
Attending Bootcamp is a bit like going to see Penn And Teller, the famous illusionists.
First they wow you with a spectacular illusion and you can see no other explanation than to call it magic. However, then they come back on the stage and show you how the trick was performed. From this point on, you will never be able to be fooled by that illusion again.
It doesn’t matter how long you live; you will never be able to label that routine as ‘magic’ again. Even if you reach the ripe old age of 100-years-old, that piece of theatre will fail to fool you again.
I reveal why you think that alcohol enables you to be more sociable and confident in public. I shine the spotlight of truth on all the nonsense and illusion of this drug. I proudly reveal myself to be the man who forever spoils alcohol for you, for good!
The man who ruins alcohol
You will never be able to drink using the old excuses and justification you previously employed to explain your actions. That might sound insignificant, but it is deeper and more profound than you could imagine.
Your beliefs are the secret to everything in your life, both good and bad.
I always ask drinkers why they drink, and often I get the answer ‘for the buzz’ or ‘for the sensation of euphoria’ that it brings to life. To which I ask, ‘if that’s what you want, why not use heroin’?
After all, heroin is a much ‘better’ drug if that’s what you are chasing. Of course, I am joking but only to make a point. The reason why problem drinkers don’t feel the pull to use something more potent like heroin is that they believe it would be devastating to their life.
They are right but more than that it demonstrates that their beliefs and subconscious programming are perfectly aligned around this drug.
We just don’t do things that we believe will be harmful to us.
Ergo, if you still drink alcohol, it is because your beliefs around this drug are currently not correctly positioned. My goal is to get your beliefs around alcohol to match and mirror those you have about other (and less socially acceptable) dangerous drugs.
Sometimes at Bootcamp, I see a few furrowed brows at this point, and a few hands will go up seeking clarification. I will be told ‘I know alcohol is destroying my life, that’s why I am here.’
However, it is crucial to understand that there is an enormous difference between your conscious beliefs and your subconscious beliefs.
Almost everyone on planet earth consciously believes that their life would be better if they were rich. Sadly most of them also have subconscious beliefs that block such a utopia ever appearing.
They have been programmed at an unconscious level since the day they were born. Taught to believe that money is the root of all evil, rich people are corrupt and immoral and so on.
The internal battle
There are two parts of our brain, but they are hugely unbalanced.
The conscious mind is tiny and weak compared to the subconscious mind. It is for this reason alone that willpower nearly always failed when used against alcohol problems. Willpower resides in the conscious mind, but your drinking problem is not there – it is in the vastly more powerful subconscious part of your brain.
If you have repeatedly failed to moderate your drinking in the past, don’t feel bad. You are not weakwilled or any of the other negative labels we tend to apply. The reality is you have repeatedly been turning up to a gunfight with a knife.
This rule does not just apply to alcohol. It affects every aspect of our lives daily. If you consciously believe you would be happier if you weighed less and decide to go on a diet.
However, at the same time, you have buried beliefs that dieting is a miserable and challenging ordeal. Guess what the long term result of your actions will be.
This is the very reason why 95% of people who go on a weight loss diet will not only regain the lost weight but will add on average an extra 2-3 lbs on top.
Diets don’t work
Sticking your head outside the bubble of unreality is a beautiful thing to do. It signifies you are in a small but impressive group of people.
Most people who are worried about their drinking never do anything about it… until it’s too late. Be proud that you are not one of those people; you are openminded enough to consider that what you currently believe may not be serving you, may not even be true.
Your journey into the truth begins with a question. Why do you drink?
What is alcohol giving you?
Take a few moments to write down what you currently believe the benefits of alcohol are. Common answers range from relaxation and drinking to ease social anxiety to pain management and self-medication.
Be honest with yourself and be specific. Stating you drink because you ‘like it’, is too vague. What specifically do you like, what pleasure is it moving you towards or what pain does it appear to push you away from?
If you are ready to escape the loop of problem drinking, make today the day you actually do something about it.