A brutally honest email from a former drinker
Confessions of a former drinker
This is from a former drinker (P), I wanted to share this because he says it so much better than I ever could. CB
Thought I would update you on how I am getting on.
I cant be sure of the timescales, but I think I started with Craig’s programme about three years ago, since then I have been mostly sober, but more importantly happy!
I had had a couple of “relapses” in that time when the evil clown got me back for a short spell but overall long-time sober.
40 years old, happily married with a seven-year-old daughter and a son who is going to be two in a week. I own a small business with a few staff and all the headaches and stress that come with that.
I believe that for this to work for you and for you to be truly happy sober you need to focus on the benefits of being free from alcohol and not the misery alcohol caused you.
The memory of the misery will eventually wear off, but living a happy poison free life is always in the present and hard to forget! So here are some of the great things about living a life free of alcohol
The Internal Battle
The first and best thing that happens is you feel at peace, all the internal battles and arguments with yourself about “should I drink tonight? I don’t want a drink. I do want a drink. I will only drink tonight, but not tomorrow. I will stop drinking Monday etc.”.
I am sure you can relate to this! But this all stops as soon as you stop drinking and you know in your heart you have finished all this turmoil ends a wave of peace comes over you, and it indeed is fantastic.
I have said this many times, but it’s worth repeating as it is a massive benefit of not poisoning yourself MOUNTAINS BECOME MOLEHILLS! Yep, you read that right.. all those stressful things in your life when your not drinking just get smaller.
When you’re not dealing with hangovers all the time and just generally feeling jaded, you just roll your sleeves up and get on with sorting things out, be it at work, at home in your relationships you get the time you need to sort your stuff out!
No More Hangovers
You have far more time on your hands! Sometimes it can be tough to deal with. If you are anything like I was, I would drink as much as I could early evening then fall into a coma, sometimes before my kids went to bed. Boredom can become an issue but remember life is short as it is!
My weekends last much longer and who am I to complain? (that’s also why on a Friday night I am wide awake typing this lol!)
I am a better husband and dad, my family now comes first and not my addiction. I would like to think I am a better boss at work and in general. I just think this journey has made me into a much better person and far less selfish. Unlike when I was drinking I can look into a mirror and not hate myself now.
Some of the stuff is obvious, so I will not dwell on it, weight loss, more energy, more money. I have been on around eight alcohol-free holidays and they have been the best!
Another thing I had forgotten about a bit, and I was reminded of recently when I noticed how much some of our close friends do it, is how much planning goes into getting a drink! ARGHH!!
Every waking minute seems to be about structuring your day or weekend on where you can fit alcohol in it! It isn’t about having fun, or doing something enjoyable every activity is about getting a drink in!
The freedom you enjoy when you start doing things you truly enjoy is fantastic! Even being able to drive anywhere you like at any time of day or night is liberating!
Be prepared though to become the local taxi driver and the designated take away pick up person, and the irony of being the only person capable of driving to the shop to buy more booze because your mates have run out!
I am comfortable around booze now, I can go to the bar and bring back a round of drinks without feeling any desire to drink them, just like I can buy bleach from the shop without wanting to drink that. I socialize more now than I did before! I tended to be a stay at home drinker, usually on my own!
Now all that I have written may sound like I am showing off or being smug but that is not my intention, Craig and the Stop Drinking Expert program have saved my life, and I am forever grateful. I write this to try and give back and help people with a positive message.
Light At The End of The Tunnel
Before I found this program and Craig’s books I thought I was unique and broken, I thought my life wasn’t worth living if alcohol was taken away. I was wrong! Maybe you’re in this position now, and I hope my words help you see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Life isn’t perfect, I still have shit days, I still have stress I still have the occasional wobble, and I would be lying to you I said that the evil clown didn’t whisper in my ear from time to time about how good just having that one drink would be… the trick to this is you know what’s happening and you know how to deal with it.
Now and again I think about how good it would be to get drunk one night at a BBQ or Beer Garden, but it’s just not worth it. My overall happiness is now far more critical. I prefer being happy all the time rather than just being happy for a few drunken hours that I fail to remember the day after.
Stay Away From The Loan Shark
One of the things I love is the attention I get, people are genuinely in awe of the fact that I can go out and have fun without a drink, it starts many a conversation, and if I am honest, I get a bit of a buzz out of it. I tell people the truth.. my life is better without alcohol in it.
I hope you managed to read it this far and I hope you have either found it helpful or interesting. It helps me every couple of months to write something like this to remind me how far I have come and how much my life has improved.
Love to you all
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